037 - Safety for Your Intense Child and Yourself with Carrie Conrad

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"

In this episode of "Parenting the Intensity," host Anouk is joined by guest Carrie Conrad, founder of Beating Disasters, to explore the challenging topic of dealing with emotionally intense children who engage in physically dangerous behavior. The conversation sheds light on the need for parents to approach restraint from a place of empathy and support, rather than control or punishment, while emphasizing the importance of safety and nonviolent parenting. Anouk and Carrie discuss the struggle of finding helpful resources for parents dealing with intense behaviors and highlight the crucial role of natural consequences, preventative measures, and emotional regulation in parenting. Stay tuned for valuable insights, practical advice, and helpful resources in this thought-provoking discussion on resilient and mindful parenting.

3 Key Takeaways:

1️⃣ How and When to use Restraints: Approach restraint from a place of service and support, rather than punishment or control. We emphasized the importance of turning to resources like Dr. Althea Solter's book "Tears and Tantrums" for valuable insights into understanding restraint from a gentle, respectful, and dignified perspective.

2️⃣ Prioritize empathy and support : while implementing natural consequences and preventative measures for challenging behaviors in children, especially those prone to emotionally intense reactions. It's important to adapt parenting advice and resources to fit your own child and family's reality.

3️⃣ Importance of parent's emotional regulation: Recognize the significant impact of a parent's emotional regulation on their child's behavior and practice self-care to model the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing well-being. Teaching children about self-care and boundaries is crucial for their own emotional growth and development.

"Everybody wants control. But when it comes to physical safety and people or children being emotionally dysregulated or not in control of themselves, oddly enough, we give control to gain control."

Connect with Carrie:

Website: Www.beatingdisaster.com

Facebook: Www.facebook.com/BeatingDisaster

Resources mentioned:

Book tears and tantrum from Aletha Solter, Ph.D. founder and firector of The Aware Parenting Institute: https://www.amazon.ca/Tears-Tantrums-What-Babies-Children/dp/0961307366

Daniel the Tigger for emotional regulation: https://pbskids.org/daniel/

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